Catch up

After rereading what I have written, I realized important facts are missing in order to make sense of my ramblings. In August 2006, we reported the suspicion of abuse to the police based on A'ilana telling us that her father "rubs my tata with I'm tired." This wasn't the first inappropriate incident so we went to the authorities. Aren't these the people who profess to protect and serve? The detective assigned to the case took A'ilana (wearing her badge and gun) into another room for 10 minutes. Called my daughter into the room and told her A'ilana did not disclose anything and that it wasn't her job to come between a child and her father. Five minutes..end of case. Up to this point I had been taking A'ilana to her father for her parenting time with him. She never wanted to go. She would cry and beg me to "please let me stay with you and momma." I couldn't do this any more and with a lawyers advice refused to transport her.

In September 2006, my daughter was given a protection order by the court against L. L totaled his car at about this time so couldn't come to pick her up. He did not see her after the protection order and moved to CA to live with R at the end of Oct.

Because we pitched a fit with the supervisor, victim’s advocates contacted my daughter to offer therapy for A'ilana which she began at the end of Oct. L let me know that he was coming to CO to see his daughter in early Dec. We panicked and with her therapist's help arranged for A'ilana to be interviewed (on videotape) by social services and the same detective. At 4, in a room full of strangers, her story wasn't consistent. She told them what her father had done, but said that it happened in my house with her mother watching. The authorities were, again, going to do nothing in part because of the detective. (Social Services were concerned enough to send my daughter a letter telling her that if there was any chance her father would try to see A'ilana, they were to be notified immediately.) I came unglued when this was over and had a shouting match with the detective who blamed me for the fact that she couldn't do anything. A'ilana told them I didn't like her father...and that was all the detective needed say A'ilana would get no protection.

To her credit, she did call L and ask him to come do a lie detector test. He agreed even though she told him that he could only see A'ilana supervised if he failed any questions. Guess what? He did fail ..."Have you ever put your fingers in your daughter's anus for sexual pleasure?" When told he failed, he something to effect of "I need a lawyer" and left. The detective called A'ilana's pre-school to say that L could only see A'ilana supervised and asked her teacher if she would be willing to do that. She did. L spent about 15 minutes with her and her teacher.

We now know that L left the country in Jan. 2007. We thought he was in CA with R. He sent an email in March asking to arrange a phone call with A'ilana, but as I wanted nothing to do with him (and on the advice of council) told him to conact my lawyer. He called and left a death threat message for me and my daughter...which the judge deemed a violation of the protection order. A warrent was issued for his arrest. We had a piece filled year until he returned with the CA lawyer/girlfriend and the bank of CO lawyers.