The Game Changes

It has been many days since I last posted. In the interim, the onslaught has continued unabated. The following continues where I left off. More to follow with the current attacks.

In April, L verbally agreed to see A’ilana under supervision. (Before you get too enthusiastic about what a great guy he is, the court ordered parenting time is only in effect if he is a resident of CO.) My daughter and I had a meeting with her lawyer to strategize. This meeting was especially distressing (he was not interested in pressing our case at any time during our association) and we came away wanting a new lawyer who would be aggressive and do something.

Time out: Remember the letter I mention from social services saying to give them a call if L returned? This letter also states that they were not going to take action as my daughter’s lawyer assured them that he would be filing motions in the court. All the while, telling us that he didn’t think we should go to court. If that fool had done what he said he was going to do, we wouldn’t be where we are now.

Enter the new, more aggressive lawyer (W.W.) with filed motions requesting that they be allowed to return to their home in FL, that L be required to see A’ilana only under supervision, and that she have sole decision making (it’s hard to have joint decision making with a protection order specifying no contact other than email about drop-off and pick-up arrangements) and a request for reintegration therapy. Yes, that’s right. We requested this in April to help A’ilana with the sudden reappearance of the man who abused her. They refused. They also refused to allow A’ilana to see a therapist herself to help process all of this.

Now comes L’s new, even more aggressive and expensive ($325/hr) lawyer (we call him Taz) who begins the adversarial vilification of my daughter’s character with charges that are untrue and sometimes ludicrous. A favorite of mine in an early missive stated my daughter made the decision to move to FL and then to CO without L’s input and this horrible moving around had interfered with his career. As what? A busboy…a waiter…a rocket scientist? Even though that charge is amusing to those who know the whole saga, the letters defaming my daughter came 1 – 3 times a week for months. After all, he is the one who failed the lie detector test (which his lawyer now says is understandable as he didn’t understand the question, English not being his first language); they have to create a smoke screen to cover what he has done. The problem is that this tactic seems to have been effective. Everyone appears to believe him…the poor victim. And no one seems to see any contradictions in what he reports...on the one hand he is a second language learner and on the other he says he is fluent in 4 (count them 1,2,3,4) languages.